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« on: December 22, 2005, 06:40:08 PM » |
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Hi everybody,    All of u hate ur problem and want to kill it, right? Do u know how to put it to death? If u don't, take ur time to read the ensuing suggestions, OK?Well, we all have problems that block our progress or prevent us from advancing. Our problems may include the fear of speaking in front of a group of people, anxiety about exams, the reluctance to speak a foreign language, etc. So what is ur problem right now? It's natural to have problems, but when it happens to you, consider the following three ways of dealing with a problem.
1. Pretend that ur problem doesn't exist. Avoid it, deny it, say that there is no problem happens to u at all. Do you think this help? 2. Fight against your problem. Suppose one of ur problem is being afraid of speaking in front of a group, ur hands and legs are shaking, but u try to hide and keep them from trembling. Do u think u could win ur problem (stop ur legs from shaking). 3. Love your problem. Why? It's ur problem so love it, accept it, experience it, disclose it, talk it out. Soon ur problem will lose its power and u even love it more, in other word, U Love it to Die ! Remember, ur legs are shaking when u do presentation or give speech, right? That's OK, accept it and love it, because it the way you are.No need to pretend that u are not scared (shaking), No need to fight against it, It's no help! Yet love (accept) it and try to finish ur task (presntation/speech) even though you are shaking. What do u think about ur Problems? Do you Loathe or Love them? Have ur Say right now ! Hope these suggestions won't be useless, Your largest planet, Jupiter |
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« Reply #1 on: December 23, 2005, 11:27:28 PM » |
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I like number 3 alot.
it is good to bring your fear into light cos it will only grow bigger if you keep it in the dark. And i'm not sure about #1, it is like being in denial which seems unrealistic as to help you control your or solve your problems.
I solved my problems by identifying thems then accept it and trash it down one by one without giving up.
Happy holiday and Happy new year!
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« Reply #2 on: December 24, 2005, 04:10:21 PM » |
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Hi Jupiter, Hi Prince charming, Oh well, I am not here to say Jupiter is wrong or the Prince is right. There is no right or wrong, but our individual thought makes it so. I just only have some different ideas. From my experiences, I always use my knowledge to make things happen the way i want them to. That means learning how and why i do what i do, and dont do what i dont do, and how and why other people do what they do and dont do. We are living in the real world and dealing with real problems that need real change. We dont just need insight and understanding into problems; we need them to change. And We are not a victim. We are creating the situations we are in; we are creating the emotions that flow from those situations. So we must be willing to move our position, and, however difficult or unsual it may seem, embrace the fact that we own the problems, acknowledging that we are accountable means that we understand that the solutions lie within us. Dig for it! Remember: If you continue to do what you've always done, you will continue to have what you've always had. If you do different, you will have different.I hope this helps a bit,  Happy Merry Christmas and Happy New Year, :lol: Lisa |
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« Reply #3 on: December 24, 2005, 07:26:24 PM » |
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Hi Friends, It's wonderful that you share ur ideas here. You are right, Lisa, different ideas don't mean you are wrong! You are also right, Prince_charming . As you see Tip #1 (pretend that ur problem doesn't exist) and i've asked a question (Do you think this help?) . It's great that you think Tip #1 doesn't help u at all, and i hope everyone will think so. You know, if we have a problem and try to pretend that we don't have it by keeping it in our mind, our problem will stay in our mind and it'll develop itself bigger and bigger, which is hard for us to kill it. Anyway, don't keep ur problem in ur head, take it out, disclose it and strive to find solution for it. No problem can't be solved! The only problem is How we solve it, Do we want to solve it or not, or Are we strong enough to solve it? Most people fear their problem, and they always think that they can't solve/kill it. Therefore, they keep the problem in mind and try to ignore it, which let it grow easily. My last word is be strong and powerful to face ur problems. Whenever the problem come to u, don't allow it to enter ur mind. Yet, if they it's in ur mind, try ur best to let it out, Don't Keep It !!!Hope to get more and more ideas, Jupiter |
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« Reply #4 on: December 25, 2005, 05:17:03 AM » |
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Wow, Jupiter, Lisa and Price, you all have good ideas here. It is true that we all have problems. And problems come and go like waves. I have ever had a feeling that I did not want to show my problems to other people because i felt that i appeared so weak. But keeping my problems did not help at all because they could not be solved. And I was afraid that other people would laugh about my mistakes. But in fact, if somebody laughs about our mistakes, they obviously laugh about theirs because they, too, have problems. Sharing our problems here really help because everybody is enthusiastic about learning English and helping one another improve their English. So we had better be positive about expressing our problems of English here. Surely we always learn something new from our problems. Problems are like ghosts because if we are scared of them, they will come to haunt us all the time.First, we should be able to recognize our mistakes by findng the root cause of itself. Second, we must admit that we have it. Do not pretend we do not have it (as Jupiter says) by accepting it, embracing it. Third, we have to find ways to tackle them. :lol: Let's imagine that a problem is like hair that needs combing every single day.  Everybody is great. If others can, you can! Have a nice day! :lol: |
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« Reply #5 on: December 25, 2005, 05:17:37 AM » |
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Wow, Jupiter, Lisa and Prince, you have good ideas here. It is true that we all have problems. And, of course, we must not keep them. I have ever had a feeling about that. I thought that when I expressed my problems to other people, I would lose face or feel very weak. So, I kept them without letting other people know them. Finally, I found out that showing our problems to other people would not be as bad as what I thought. And keeping our problems does not help. Do we really feel willing to pinpoint our problems? When we keep our problems, they cannot be solved yet doubled. Thus we need help from our friends. We have to be brave to face up to them. Then those will be gone one by one. True, everybody has their own weak points, and that is normal. There is nothing to be afraid of. If somebody laughs about our mistakes, they sure also laugh about theirs because they, too, have, so we had best help one another tackle problems we are facing. Let's imagine that a problem is like hair that needs combing every single day. :lol: We always learn something new from our problems. Show the best you can. Everybody is great. If others can, you can!
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« Reply #6 on: January 05, 2006, 02:34:05 AM » |
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Hi everybody, All of u hate ur problem and want to kill it, right? Do u know how to put it to death? If u don't, take ur time to read the ensuing suggestions, OK?Well, we all have problems that block our progress or prevent us from advancing. Our problems may include the fear of speaking in front of a group of people, anxiety about exams, the reluctance to speak a foreign language, etc. So what is ur problem right now? It's natural to have problems, but when it happens to you, consider the following three ways of dealing with a problem.
1. Pretend that ur problem doesn't exist. Avoid it, deny it, say that there is no problem happens to u at all. Do you think this help? 2. Fight against your problem. Suppose one of ur problem is being afraid of speaking in front of a group, ur hands and legs are shaking, but u try to hide and keep them from trembling. Do u think u could win ur problem (stop ur legs from shaking). 3. Love your problem. Why? It's ur problem so love it, accept it, experience it, disclose it, talk it out. Soon ur problem will lose its power and u even love it more, in other word, U Love it to Die ! Remember, ur legs are shaking when u do presentation or give speech, right? That's OK, accept it and love it, because it the way you are.No need to pretend that u are not scared (shaking), No need to fight against it, It's no help! Yet love (accept) it and try to finish ur task (presntation/speech) even though you are shaking.What do u think about ur Problems? Do you Loathe or Love them? Have ur Say right now ! Hope these suggestions won't be useless, Your largest planet, Jupiteru remind me of my japanese teacher. he said that when u do the presentation and if u're nervous and ur legs are a little shaking, shake them more. that's funny. it's not good though. |
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« Reply #7 on: January 05, 2006, 07:00:12 PM » |
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Hello hmm, It' great that you share your ideas here. You said that's funny but not good, so would you like to share a good one to us, that is, the good way to stop trembling when you are doing presentation or giving speech. Hope to get your helpful comment, Jupiter |
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A woman is like a cup of tea. You'll never know how strong she is until she boils.
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« Reply #8 on: July 08, 2006, 09:55:23 PM » |
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I'd like to express my little idea here as for how to stop urself from trembling when doing presentation. Actually, I remember on my first few presentations that i did in class, I spoke tremblingly and everybody in the class was aware that i was nervous... My friends and others tried to put on their smile even more and more as a sign to assure i was receiving enough encouragement and support for my going-on speech. And i always found myself convinced of enough confidence after the first couple minute struggling to get used to the position i was standing and what i was seeing. From these experiences, I learnt that to stop urself from trembling u really have to settle ur inner emotion first of all. That's to give urself a first few seconds to be in the position u r about to give speech without speaking anything yet. To do this is to let urself get used to the position which u have never been at before, and look around to all the audience as to calm down ur nerve. So that when u speak u will see only the familiar faces u have pictured already then intense is impossibly gonna happen  However, u need to manage the lenght of shortest time as possible as u can and speak only when u r ready. Dont kno if u agree?! |
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« Reply #9 on: July 15, 2006, 02:45:17 AM » |
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If you're giving a presentation, it's a good idea to spend some time practising in the room where you will give it. Studnets often spend time in classrooms, but don't realise how different the room is when standing at the front, so when they step up, it's a strange and frighteni9ng place. If you can, spend some time getting used to the front of the room. Get a friend to sit at the back and check that they can hear you, so you know that you're speaking loud enough and not too fast, which is often a problem. ;-)
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