What is the most suffer in people life?

[vann lyda]

Hi! Everybody,

I want all of you to give me some ideas for this question<<what and when is the most hurt(suffer)in people life??

Thanks before head for your answers!!!
I'm waiting to hearing de answers from all of you!!!
From Lyda.

[Linda_Qoo]

Hi Lyda,
Personally I think people are hurt when they are definitely turned down.
When people don't see the outcome as they had expected, it'll leave them diappointed and emotionally they feel wretched.

The more unexpectations the more sorrow recieved later.

Linda

[Keo Somala]

Hi Lyda & Linda,

You are right, Linda. The thing you mentioned is something I have also confronted. I almost got lost in the world in that circumstance because i was too hurt to recover. However, I have to thank God to help me get over that.

As far as I'm concerned, when people are most suffering in life is when they don't see their family and friends around and everybody doesn't support them for what they do :cry: . And what makes them suffer most is lack of humanity like care and kindness. Again, humanity is something needed because it shows that it is worth living in this world and helping ourselves and others for happiness. We cannot always think about our own selves and ignore others on our way.That is how each of us may feel in somebody else's shoes.

Mala

[Linda_Qoo]

Sorry, I was about to say "unrealistic expectation" but instead i typed "unexpectation" as I was in a rush this morning and accidently made such mistake.

[Dy Dara]

Hi,

For me I think the most suffering for people is when they are not satisfy with what they have, not enought for what they want and not enought for what they wish. No matter how rich we are, if we feel not satisfy with what we have, we still hanger, poor, and sad and this is suffering that people have in their life. YOu can see the more people hunger, the more suffer they have.

Talk to you all latter,
Dara

[keokalyan]

Hi Lyda and everybody here, esp. Mala

Well... What and when is the most suffer thing and time in people's lives? After i've read all the posts replied here, I think I don't need to share my ideas at all cuz Mala's ideas are totally the same to what are in my head. It is really ture! When we think that we are lonely and no one cares about us. :cry:  

Thank you all for sharing.
 
Regard,

kalyan.

ps: BUT what should we do to eliminate such that useless and bothering feeling?  :idea:

[Keo Somala]

Hi everybody, especially Kalyan(ney) :lol: ,

Feeling lonely is hard to imagine! We love to be with whom we love, like our parents, siblings and friends. Sometimes, we are quite so lonesome and so we feel frustrated.

BUT what should we do to eliminate such that useless and bothering feeling?

The thing I am going to tell you is that to eliminate it is to come to me. :lol: I mean, talk to somebody you can. We know that our parents do not have time for us all the time. Then, it is not good to feel miserable alone like that. You need to do something, like talking to your best friends, going for a walk around a pleasant place or doing something you love, such as listening to music. If each of these does not work for you, then you are to have somebody you can share all your happiness and sorrow with. Be cheerful and believe that this life is so precious for everyone. This breath comes in and out at the same time, this means, the minute we stop thinking about our happiness is the minute you forget about this breath.

Best wishes for you all, especially Kalyan.

[keokalyan]

Hi everybody, esp. Mala(ria)  :wink:

Hi there mala! Many thanks for ya advices and tips for eliminating lonesome.

Yep, i love to be with my parents, esp. ma mum. But I'd prefer to be alone working in ma room. During de time i am alone, loneliness almost come up to ma mind! I do wanna hav frns to be near me and share some ideas on some topic or issue or discuss sth with me. But they seems don't hav some kinda habit like me. I don't like going out with frns, as I don hav such that kinda habit. ( i'm not out-going). I usually feel that no one cares about me or wanna be ma frns due to their ignorance for me at school. I seldom join the activities like go eating out, party, or visit frn's house. However, this feeling not only comes up to me when i am alone, but also happens during de break time at school, or when i am near my classmates. I try not to think, yet i cant control it  :oops:

hey, u suggested me that:

Then, it is not good to feel miserable alone like that. You need to do something, like talking to your best friends, going for a walk around a pleasant place

and u also said that:

If each of these does not work for you, then you are to have somebody you can share all your happiness and sorrow with

Who cares about me? i don think their wil be such dat helpful frn exist in de world for me at all! U kno, even my best frn and my a very close frn which i regard her as my god sister seems, not seem but does, ignore me even i try to talk to her at school..  :cry:

Anyway, I still very appreciated ya advice and ya golden time to reply my post!

Regard,
Kalyan

[Keo Somala]

Hi Kalyan(ney) :lol:,

Oh, my God. Just as well, that my real name is not Mala. It's just my ID. :lol:

After reading this, I feel quite sorry for you. You are alone in feeling that way. It's what I have been through. When there is nobody around, I first feel lonely. I'm not Mr. Lonely. :lol: But I know that I can't let this feeling float again and again. Why not talk to me? :lol:

My suggestion is that you should be stronger, Kalyan. Being born in this world, we need to control ourselves. Of course, it's hard to do it first, but if we try, we can make it. And please remember that you are not alone in feeling this way. If others can overcome, why not us? Be more positive. I feel sure that you can still find somebody around. Sometimes, they don't have time for you...maybe there is something about you...you should make yourself more out going and sociable. I mean, talk to them first, understand them, be kind to them and they will find you a lovely and cheerful girl.

There is a boxer standing in front of a mirror. He's trying to fight with the one in the mirror. If he can beat that one, he wins everything.  

[Chesda]

Hi there, esp. Kalyan,

I have read your post Kalyan, and I think that all the same as Nila. She is right most of her ideas are perfect.

We are human so we absolutely face most of the things exist in this world.

To make you better get out of the lonely place, there are million ways for you to do. But choose the one you think is the best for you. I know it is hard for a person to change or make something different. I am one of them. But the way that make me happy is writing and reading books, esp. meeting my friends. I have a few best friends, but they are so nice for me.

You know how do you feel if you write an email to a friend and he/she doesn't reply to your email all the time? You might be angry and never send any mails to that friend. This is not the good way we should do. Why? Because, we have our own reasons. Have you ever done something wrong? Yes, you really did, so other people too, they make mistakes. Why not just think simple that we have our own reasons.

I would like to show you one thing that you need and must think of is "Try to forgive and forget, so you are happy" not all the things are bad, but so many things are great and joyful, esp. yourself. "Love yourself means love everyone." and " take care of yourself as take care of others"

Behappy, life doesn't boring ! It's joyful. Love the way you are, RIGHT?

 :lol: chesda

[Kimlong]

Hi ye'all here!!!!!!!!

Personally, the most suffer thing for me is when I see my lovers, everyone in Cambodia, live in a bad condition. Moreover, when my country doesn't develop as the others'.

Kimlong

[vann lyda]

Thanks for your ideas. I am very appreciate it. The most suffer in my life is when I talk with somebody and they ingore. This hurt me very much. you no?? I do hate that. When somebody encounter any difficulties, we have to help each other. Right??it is not correct to stand and see firend fall down into darkness. Do you no what I mean??

When you know or understand sth, we have to share our understanding to others. Not to hider in only their brain or in body. This is not call join hand. For me, I like share everything, give what I have to help people and my friends. I don't feel jealous with anybody. Ask kalyan, I am a good-hearted person.

Well, I am not pround of myself. But, it is ture. Ok, again I would like to say thank  you for giving your ideas about my problem. Hope to get more advices na.

Best wish from me, Lyda.

[Chesda]

Hi Lyda

You said:

The most suffer in my life is when I talk with somebody and they ingore

Just a little notice for you to think,

You may have to find out why they ignore you. First, ask youself, have you ever done anything that make them unhappy? Then if not, you have to accept the true that they have their own reasons for being ignoring you. But be calm and keep yourself happy. This means do not care so much about others' responses to you. The important thing that you need to care about is you, be happy! Nothing man can't overcome, but nature!


  Chesda

[Suy Prasoeur]

Hi Lyda Linda Mala Dara Kalyan Chesda and Kimlong, (I'd always love to mention you guys' names   , it makes you feel like reading my post, doesn't it?)


Personally, lacking happiness suffers the most in my life and this is usually caused most by loneliness and ignorance. I believe that no one wants to be lonely in this beautiful world. Being cared and loved are always wanted. In caontarst, ignoring is the most hated one. Take some posts of yours as examples:
Mala, you said:

As far as I'm concerned, when people are most suffering in life is when they don't see their family and friends around and everybody doesn't support them for what they do  . And what makes them suffer most is lack of humanity like care and kindness.

Kalyan, you said:

It is really ture! When we think that we are lonely and no one cares about us.  

Chesda, I also hate this ignorance.

You know how do you feel if you write an email to a friend and he/she doesn't reply to your email all the time? You might be angry and never send any mails to that friend. This is not the good way we should do.

After having read your post, kalyan, I think you may have been sourious or not really close to those pals of yours, because they might not have any special thing in character of close friends that you want such as you don't like going out but they do ... But really, I don't mean to break up your realationship, it's just what I feel. Anyway, there are millions of ways to get rid of this issue. I think you should choose to do something that makes you feel happy, maybe follow your hobbies I mean, if you like reading just go and get some books or playing spots/doing exercises, you can join the gym(I bet you'll meet someone who shares the same hobbies there :wink:). That's it.


Any feedback is welcome,
Prasoeur

[keokalyan]

Hi Kounila, Chesda, Prosoeur, Lyda and Kalyan :lol: (wanna say hi to maself too!)

Thanks so much Kounila! u said that:

Sometimes, they don't have time for you...maybe there is something about you...you should make yourself more out going and sociable. I mean, talk to them first, understand them, be kind to them and they will find you a lovely and cheerful girl.

Yep! I did do that! but de respond i got back is just ignorant!  :cry:  

U kno, i did try to communicate with them first! I am de first who start! but i never get a satisfied reply or care back  :cry:

Hehe.. anyway, as u've been through dat situation already, I think i hav to try ya medicine  :wink:  thanks for de prescription  

Chesda, i am very appreciated to ya advices! how worthful it is! ya wonderful ideas appeal to me very useful that i should develop myself to a happier gal. Here :

"Try to forgive and forget, so you are happy" not all the things are bad, but so many things are great and joyful, esp. yourself. "Love yourself means love everyone." and " take care of yourself as take care of others"

Yeah,  Lyda is a good girl! I've met her already and we're such good frns now!

Hi Prasoeur, yeah I am close to nobody  :oops:  cuz i am not that physically frnly, but i am mentally frnly and sociable! When i ask them why they do that to me, they just said that oh they didnt and make lots of unrelated excuse!

anyway, thanks so much na prasoeur!