What should I explain to him about his wrong attitude?

[Panharath]

What should I do if Im in the middle of an issues between a bro and sis which both of them have a big problem? How can I compromise with them? Because Im very closed to them. If they broke their relationship, i don't know what I can do when I come to stay and talk with them about anything related to relationship. They are both stubburn and one opened about their relationship with me but other one doesn't. They both need my advice. The sister mostly true in her side and for brother, he is too demended, no reasonable, crave for caring and too jealous. Everything sister does always wrong and he is always right in his way. He always come up with any solutions and twist to win over my sister and then always end up with saying that is because he care about her too much. He can have other relationship with other girls but he doesn't let my sister communicate with other guys and actually they are just her friend and even female friends, she's not allowed to spend time with them more than him. He ask me for advice and I don't dare to tell such of his bad behavior to him because he would be angry and so rude with me because of his natural manner.
So what should I do? He will lose my sister if he keep acting like this!
I think if I can explain all these to him, he will correct it and treat my sister in a good way. So they both won't broke their relationship!

If you guys have any ways to help me about explaining to him, pls let me know!
Thank in advance!

[denith]

Your brother is conservative, self-centered and envious.

He though girls should behave in the name of man's honour.

This type of man needs special truth to calm him down. Simple, concise and easy-going advise won't get to him.

Try to show him you got your own freedom. Tell him directly, this kind of man is strong in look but not the inner part. Because he envies that he acts like he is the master of the universe, but inside he fears alot. Try to show him you got strenght, or i mean your sister got, got rights to talk, rights to choose. A little quarrel with him with finish things all.

If things don't work, ask him what does he really wants.

I think the advise is go straight against him.

[rachada]

1st: Talk to them directly one by one...
2nd: If you're not dare to tell him so, you're better leave this kind of writing somewhere he can see and read it. Say, how do you really want him to change?
Like this piece of the post can show that you care of them so much..Well...take this one then add more .Let both of them think of their own mistakes.

[Panharath]

It's hard to tell him directly because he is kind of man who want to be the BEST... like no one can beat him. He need to be in the name of a Man being. NO ONE CAN BE HIS TEACHER!

[rachada]

Why can't you do that, huh? I know it's hard for ya but you want him keep doing those rude things, do you? Honesty, No Way Out. To solve it: must go and talk to him..or you do nothing for a while, give them and yourself a break, waiting to see what's going on next?

You sister should find other guy then (too much jealous)

NO ONE CAN BE HIS TEACHER!

He's not going to school te

[Panharath]

Hmmm cos of his too much high in education neng hoy, that's why he's like that!

You know what? my sister want me to stay calm in a while... She said don't say any words untill she break with him!
Hhhhhhhhhhhmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmm

[rachada]

Hope you won't write too long hmmmm....it's difficult for me when im trying to read it

Alright, follow your sister. Mr. HE will regret(next time he might try to fix what he's done). Let it be his first experience how to lose the person he loves.

HE= High Education

[yivuoch]

Hi I think that it's one of the problems that I have met. As you know he is a man who has bad manner with high education so the best way that u need to do is don't tell him about his fault because he can't accept it when you told him, just raise any case that related to his actions and finally a man who is in this is remouseful. I think it the best way............... If he still do the same it's the good way that your sister need to break with him no one can stand with him. Sorry it just my idea I don't know it right or wrong.

[luxx]

Hi, It's the problem that used to happen to my family too! At that time, my bro talked directly to my sister.
They had the reason and they listened to each other calmly.
I think it is not worst by just ask them talk to each other when they are in good mood.

Sure, your brother cares about your sister. But your sister just dont want to be cared too much.
Most brother may think that if his sister go out with friend too much, their sister may become naughty. It's not fair for the sister; however, the other may think like her brother too.

mmmh! Talking with reason, if it is not work, consult with your parents!

[Antoneen]

Dear all,

Many of your ideas have been really great in contributing to resolution to romantic relationship conflict. Avoiding conflict is not the way to romantic bliss. Learning how to handle disagreements with your partner is a big step in the right direction. When it comes to love, undoubtedly, there will be imbalanced between one partner to another in terms of caring. Each individual will have their own expectation from their partner. Like in this case, Your brother offered too much cares to your sister until she felt a kinda complete control over her or she felt suffocated with space for privacy. That was a mistake indeed for what he was doing. Meaning that he was misunderstood about what he was expecting from your sister and about what your sister didn't actually like him to do like that. Therefore, miscommunication took place, conflict came a long the ways and soon after the two took pride in their own way, nothing can be fixed besides choosing the way to break the relationship and look out for something new. But, however, he will be trapped in the same place if he ever wishes to break out of this cycle (relationship conflict)...

My suggestion is, you should find an appropriate time to communicate with him affectively what he actually seeks in this relationship. What can he offers, what he truly expects from your sister and what he could learn to accept and adapt for her. Caring too much doesn't mean he truly loves her. Conversely, It could be resulting from unreasonable jealousy, irrational demanding from instinct that he himself didn't realize it, etc... Mistakenly, he might think one he loves someone, he expects to be the master and dominate that one... It was a huge mistake, really! Secondly, you should advise him to learn how to listen instead of being stubborn and get controlled over her even the space for privacy. Also, recommend him to sit and talk and communicate our his want and need from this relationship with her, otherwise the two will remain feeling of their expectation remains unmet. Again, talk, talk , talk, communicate out instead of getting mad with each other and ending up finding the bad or negative points of one another, blaming each other like i am right you are wrong blah blah blah and jumping to a conclusion of breaking or dumping one another. In romantic relationship, there is nothing to with you are right or i am wrong. Yet, something to do with what is right we can do about it to avoid conflict. If you took no action, the conflict will be, needless to say, more serious and finally nobody can ever salvage or restore!

Hope it works with you to share with your brother to think it over!

[denith]

Then Mr. HE needs some real lessons of life. An arrogant man needs to know the meaning of tears... let's teach him why "8th March" exists!

[Panharath]

Hope you won't write too long hmmmm....it's difficult for me when im trying to read it

Alright, follow your sister. Mr. HE will regret(next time he might try to fix what he's done). Let it be his first experience how to lose the person he loves.

HE= High Education

That's right! That's what she want!

[Panharath]

Hi I think that it's one of the problems that I have met. As you know he is a man who has bad manner with high education so the best way that u need to do is don't tell him about his fault because he can't accept it when you told him, just raise any case that related to his actions and finally a man who is in this is remouseful. I think it the best way............... If he still do the same it's the good way that your sister need to break with him no one can stand with him. Sorry it just my idea I don't know it right or wrong.

Yeah You are right! I agree because this is what im doing right now!

[Panharath]

Dear all,

In romantic relationship, there is nothing to with you are right or i am wrong

You are right Antoneen!
That's great and thank for all of your suggestions!
That's good idea for him to got a real lesson once in his life about acting this way... But I love and respect him a lot and I don't want him to be hurt because he is also very sensitive and touched. On the other hand, I want my sister break with him though because she loves him so much and she have sacrified a lot for him and she should get something good back and I don't both of them end up with nothing.

I have decided to talk to him!
will let all of you know about the result! hehe

Í

Then Mr. HE needs some real lessons of life. An arrogant man needs to know the meaning of tears... let's teach him why "8th March" exists!

Denith! Have you ever had that lesson in your life huh? hahaha

[denith]

NEVER before, who dares hurt Denith?